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Losing The Will To Live!

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Is that my current state of mind? You decide!

This week is turning out to be a pretty strange one with all things appearing to be death related.

Monday was a double anniversary. Firstly, it was 27 years since I lost my first true love (read the story here) and secondly, it was 20 years since I attended the funeral of my maternal grandmother. It also happens that there was a high profile death that day as well, albeit unrelated to my life – Margaret Thatcher!

Wednesday’s itinerary included a meeting with a solicitor to start the whole Will making procedure. And this is something that rather blew my mind! Am I the only person who finds making preparations for after one’s own death disturbing? Surely not. Of course I realise that this is a necessity when one has a family, and I also realise that many people have drawn up their Wills a lot earlier in their lives than me, but that doesn’t make it any easier!

It’s hard enough thinking about a pension when you first start your working life – knowing that you aren’t going to see any benefit from it for around 40 years but to set up a Will when you don’t know whether it is going to be needed for another 20 days, 20 months or 20 years is a real challenge.

In a previous life (no, this isn’t another death related topic – I haven’t been reincarnated!) before I had time to blog, I used to do a bit of coding/programming. And whilst I sat there listening to the solicitor give me advice on Will writing, all I could think about were the ‘case’ and ‘if’ statements I used to have to write. The solicitor was trying to explain how to build some flexibility into the Will to prevent the need for regular updating.

What I was hearing was:

IF wife_alive

THEN read_will_1

ELSE read_will_2


IF read_will_1

THEN wife_gets_everything


Then it started to get complicated:

CASE read_will_2

WHEN siblings_alive AND offspring_alive THEN divide_level_1

WHEN siblings_gone AND offspring_alive THEN divide_level_2

WHEN offspring_alive AND siblings_offspring_alive THEN divide_level_3

WHEN something_else THEN something_different


A swift elbow in the ribs from She Who Must Be Obeyed soon bought me back into the room, but I still had a glazed expression in my eyes! Something the solicitor noted and suggested I go away and think about it. Great, I thought, more sleepless nights!

To round off the death related stories for this week, with just a brief mention that this time next week I will be attending a funeral (though not that of the former Prime Minister!), every night this week I am on stage in a play called Losing Louis. A play in which my role is one of two sons attending the funeral of their father! A play in which part of the story involves the content of the Will.

Now, is this life imitating art or art imitating life?


Author: Better Offer

I am approaching my saga years (rapidly)! Correction, I have now reached my saga years! I am a thespian who has appeared in commercials and films and on TV, and love my time on stage but am extremely frustrated that I get most my work as an amateur. When not on stage I can be found walking the countryside, leading worship at my local church or running IT training courses and fixing PCs – just waiting for that better offer!

One thought on “Losing The Will To Live!

  1. Been there done that about three times due to changing circumstances.It’s never easy and only makes one think…. end of life draws closer 😉

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